Expert: Slavywavy - 6/24/2009

Question
me and my wife she bing the sub .have tryed swinging in the past .and i thought we had moved on but now she has ben showing an extream interest in trying it once more olny as a sub with two doms where in wicth she is controlled by two men at once and pleaseing them at the same tim she says that i would be the #1 dom but i do not see how it will work out with out it caseing problm ..do u have any addvice  that might help in doing this

Answer
Hell there DOM

Well, since you are the dominant person you set the rules and you know that this is not a limit for her. You can set up a situation that suits you and that would please you and she will have to follow your lead. Master has done this with me and it worked pretty well. The only thing we found is that sometimes a second dominant is more than happy to do BDSM play but when it comes to actual sex, sometimes struggles to perform. You need to pick someone with no performance anxiety.

If the problem is with you and that you do not want to share your wife, then this will likely not work out though, but at least you can set the rules and the limits. It might be a one time adventure that you can remember fondly but never try again, but it could also open up a world of possibilities. The other major advantage of a scene like this is that you get to protect your wife and sub and that you can stop anything that you do not feel comfortable with immediately.

You also get to play with your sub and see her in an entirely different light. Someone else might be doing something you thought she loved and see that it actually affects her badly and the other way around. By observing and controlling what is happening you learn more about her as well and maybe then it could help to understand your submissive a little bit better.

Since it has taken men a very long time to admit to not understanding women in general, do you really think you could ever understand her? *Giggles*

Go out and seek the right person and enjoy and then decide if it works for you or not. I wish you joy and good luck in this search and hope that you find a person that you could call on a regular basis to play with. We have ...

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Slavy