Expert: awhitecloud - 7/20/2009

Question
i am very new to the whole BDSM thing, and honestly, very naive about it.  About 3 months ago, i met my Master online in a VR situation.  After a few weeks, he approached me with the idea of submitting to him outside of the VR.  i thought about it briefly and agreed to try it.  All went very well, and i believe we were both pleased with my progress (still everything online).  i know there are people who balk at the whole online D/s situation and call it fake and "playing".  It is very real to me, and i have bonded strongly with my Master.  During the earlier days, Master used to spend hours with me, training me to be a better submissive, introducing me to new things.  About a little while, i noticed Master was becoming increasingly more busy, and spending less and less time with me.  i told myself it was because i was becoming a better submissive and did not need as much supervision, but then found out he has several other submissives, and is trying to spread out his time between work and each one of us.  i was not made aware of this when we originally "worked" things out, and am left a lot of the time feeling unneeded and neglected.  my questions are these.
1.)  How many submissives is it common for a Master to have?
2.)  Is it normal for a submissive to be jealous of her Master's other submissives?
3.)  What kinds of things should i expect from this relationship?  Master is extremely vague anytime i ask him a question.

Answer
1.)  How many submissives is it common for a Master to have?

Well that is hard to answer, some have just one sub at a time.  Others in Poly aspects of the lifestyle have more then one and that is defined by each relationship.  Most of the time each sub has something to offer that the others do not, so it is a balance of meeting the Dom's needs.  There is no set number at all.


2.)  Is it normal for a submissive to be jealous of her Master's other submissives?

Yes it is normal to a point.   For most it is normal to have this emotion.  In Poly households it still happens and can be hard to manage even.  But once you learn that it is not always about just having others, and more about each of you braining something different to the relationship, well then it gives you all more time, you do not have to do it all yourself.


3.)  What kinds of things should i expect from this relationship?  Master is extremely vague anytime i ask him a question.

Well first and for most I most say that D/s is about communication, you should have been told that there where others before you entered into the relationship.  Honest is a big key into D/s working be it on line or not.  The commitment should be equal to you as well the others.  In my nook you and the others should know each other and be working together.  I do not know of any real relationships that can work with out everyone knowing each other and communicating with each other.

Please remember this is just my view and not the ways of everyone.

Thank you for the questions, I hope that I have helped some even if a little.

awhitecloud