AboutCougarDomme Expertise I can answer any question about BDSM in practice, theory or relationships
Experience I have been in the BDSM scene for 25 years. I am a prodomme with a specialty of medical play. I give demonstrations on safe, sane and consensual play in the area of play: sounds, needle play, medical,saline infusions,sterile procedure,fisting,fire,knife and RACK edge play.
Organizations FLOG (St.Louis) Leather and Lace (St. Louis) Amatorius (Virginia) Black Rose (DC)Wicked (Raleigh NC)
Education/Credentials I have a Master's degree in Nursing
Question I will start with a little background on my relationship before asking my question. I met my Daddy about 4 years ago. We dated and had a regular relationship for a time and then a long distance relationship for a time. I broke up with him for a time but then after learning about the M/s lifestyle we decided to give it a try and I moved to another state to be near him about 9 mo ago and was collared about 4 mo ago. I lived with a roommate who was familiar with the lifestyle so it wasn't a problem. However I ended up having to move and and now live with other roommates. My Daddy has another vanilla relationship so he does not live with me.
Ok here is my problem. Having just moved to a new city and have new roommates. I get a lot of judgment and questions about being 30 and not married. They ask how long I have known my boyfriend, are we going to get married, why don't I live with him, etc.
How do I answer these questions without divulging my lifestyle or getting criticism. Some people think they need to warn me. They think he is married and using me, etc. I live in a fairly conservative town and am constantly judged for not being married or having kids by my age. I love my relationship with my Daddy and understand his need for more than one relationship. Part of the problem is I do love him so much that I can't help but talk about him which perhaps leaves me open to questions."
Answer Ask them "Why do you want to know?" with a smile when they ask why you aren't married and ask them the same question EVERY TIME someone asks you a question that you don't want to answer. They will hem and haw but they WON'T have an answer unless they decide to tell you the truth which is "Because I'm nosy and have no life so I want to ask inappropriate questions about yours."
