Expert: Oscar G. - 7/23/2009

Question
Hi I'm a 62 year old man and I have a 53 year old T-girl for my lover. We are both interested in developing a Dom sub relationship and have discussed taking a class to better enjoy how we interact together for our own fulfillment. I live in Richmond, Virginia and she lives in Raleigh, NC and we wonder if there are any Dominators in the area that offer a weekend class that we could attend together in our area. I have heard of classes in that San Francisco area but haven't been aware of any near us. Any help you might be willing to offer would be greatly appreciated.

Answer
Hi Jay:

The BDSM as skill, lifestyle, dynamics and interaction is more accessible than ever. Besides taking classes, you can read plenty about it in the web. But also there is planty of books on the topic. Before deciding what to read and research perhaps you need to decide or find out what type of Dominant/Submissive  situation do you both want.

It comes down to desires, needs, fantasies and imagination. Once you have that blueprint then it is time to  work your mind and or skills to achieve those things you want and desires for you both.
Regardless of who is the dominant, I suggest newcomers to talk among each other to find out your common ground and work the levels of intensity of the stuff you want. I believe DC has a  great organization called Black Rose http://www.br.org/blackrose/index.php?  that could give you a good head start and it is on your coast and very open about all kinks and situations.

So besides that there might be other smaller BDSM organizations in your areas, but Black Rose is very reputable. So i hope this gives you a  place to start reading and researching. But as I said, also ask yourself what you want and desire and fantasize, and talk it over with your partner.

Best wishes in your exploration. Be well, be safe and have fun.
Oscar G.