Aboutziggy ziegler Expertise I am available to answer questions pertaining to the Master slave dynamic. The slaves journey into submission, mentorship, service,leather lifestyle, household management, and training
Experience I am a 45 year old female slave who has been part of the BDSM/M/s lifestyle since 1983 and have traveled thought out the community presenting on a wide variety of subjects pertaining to the master slave dynamic. I am currently writing a book on topics concerning the slave. I also host a slaves retreat in TN each year which focuses on the self actualization of the consensual slave. Mrntoring and life couching for those involved in power exchange relationships
Organizations TES
MAST ROCHESTER NY
MAsT national
Education/Credentials Aside from learning from lifes experiences i have a BA in psychology and a masters in socialogy. i have studied gender and human sexuality in an ever changing world.
Awards and Honors Southeast slave 2006
International slave 2006
Question Hello,
My partner has requested that I do research on how to be a "true sub". I have never done anything like this before and I am interested but I don't really know how to truly be sexually submissive. I would like to learn so I may have a pleasing experience as a sub, I'm just not sure where to start. I guess I'm just looking for a few pointers. I have read up on the definition of submission so I am familiar with the term. It's more the actions and behaviors of a sub that I am looking to learn. Will you please help me?
Thank you
Answer Hello there
Thank you for the question....
Addmittedly i dont care for the term 'True sub" To me a person who wishes to submit to the will of another... either in bed or as part of the relationship dynamic is true enough.. The level of your submission is what you want of it.. For every person there is a differant way they submit and for each person its personal.
For learning more there are a number of resouces. If you like to read. Becoming a slave" and slave craft" and Fantasy Made Flesh are very good books.. I realize the first twe titles say slave but it is easily adapted to being a submissive.The third book is also good in that it sparks the imagination on developing and acting on ones fantasies. There are a number of other books out there that are fiction but not knowing what your interests are its hard to know what to recommend. There are also a few sites where there are discussions on various topics pertaining to submission. www.fetlife.com is the one i recommend. Another resource might be closer than you think... do a google search "BDSM group and your city or a larger city close to you
The idea behind that is to be able to talk with people who are doing the submissive thing.. it can also be interesting for your partner to talk to people who are in the dominant role there are definately something to learn from people in real time.
i could go into very lengthy "submissives are" but its been my experience that through experience and experimenting you will become the submissive you wish to be for your partner.
I hope i have offered you some ideas as to start with.. if i can answer any specific questions i would be more than happy to do so
