About awhitecloud Expertise Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 15 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle.
Experience I have been active in the community for over 18 years. I have been helping people for the last 10 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications.
Organizations Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot
Publications D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal"
Education/Credentials I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.
Awards and Honors I have several for best article of the month
Question Hi,
First a little bit about us….into what some would call soft bdsm, fun mainly reserved for the bedroom, enjoy vanilla sex as much as the bdsm. Enjoy mild punishment, paddle, light flogging but especially orgasm control. Been playing on and off for a couple of years, but would describe ourselves as inexperienced.
Our question is that during recent play I completely off the top of my head said to my wife that it was safe and completely ok for her to cry if she needed to. (We have our safe words in place). Much too both our surprise she burst into tears during a flogging session.
I think we handled it very well, holding her until she composed herself and then we continued to play. I have no idea why I said she could cry and she has no idea why she did.
Is this something that subs experience? It almost feels like we have found a new level, but are not sure where this could lead.
Any advice or incite into the crying episode would be great.
Answer Sometime it is hard for a sub to ever have a release that crying can give, I would have to say that your relationship is growing. I know of many couples that set up sessions just for and to allow the release that comes from crying. It is more on the lines of a DD session and is only for the purpose of getting the sub to cry and have this release. It is a set up before hand and a time the sub knows it will not end until the release id reached. This way it does not take away from your play sessions.
Most people I know that do this it is something they set up for once a month or every two months, this cleansing session also allows you time to deal with different emoticons that might not other wise even be known to either that are inside the sub. I know personally it has led myself to know myself in a much deeper way.
So do not stop keep moving forward and look at adding a time just for this to happen. You are growing and you knew to tell her it was okay to cry for something inside of you knew your sub needed to have this release, you are getting to know your sub better.
Thanks for the question and I hope that you keep growing together.
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