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Hi; I am happily marred to my wife of 17 years,I just found out that she has been in to BDSM for some time now but has never pursued it, except online. I want to be her dom and help fill that void. Any thing you could suggest would be helpful. I have been reading alot online.
I would say to look for munches in your local area where you can grow and learn and have others to help you along the way.
Set goals that you can reach, and it is okay to fail from time to time. Communicate often and in what ever ways that you can think of. You need to know her heart and soul and all that is inside of her. She needs to know yours as well.
Read and attend things get to know others, R/t is so much different then the on line things. The local book store can also be a great help to build some books of the trade to lead you both.
Well I wish you both a long and happy road together, if there is any thing else that I can do well please let me know.
awhitecloud
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Answers by Expert:
awhitecloud
Expertise
Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.
Experience
I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.
Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot
Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com
Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.
Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.
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