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Hi, I have known I am sub for a long time, but have not acted upon it. I recently met a Dom who seems to be great. He wants to move slowly in our relationship so I can discover myself as a sub and we together can learn as a D/s couple. He has told me that we need to build trust before moving on to some of the things I fantasize about. He does not want to share me with anyone and is not with any other women. I know he and I need to talk about expectations etc, but what should I expect as a sub in a D/s couple?
To lean on him and allow him to teach and guide you. To have communication...communication and never stop learning, about yourself as well the lifestyle.
Keep a journal and have an evening to just sit and go over it with him and talk about what you feel and where you are as well where you want to be. Set goals that you can reach.
Get together with like minded people, most areas have local munches and activities to attend now.
But talk, write, read grow yourself and your Dom along the way and never stop talking. Take it slow and do not just jump into it all...and did I say communicate?
Thank you for the questing, I wish you both good luck. IF I cna do anything else please give me a yell.
awhitecloud
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Expertise
Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.
Experience
I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.
Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot
Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com
Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.
Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.
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