Expert: ziggy ziegler - 7/12/2009

Question
I've been going through a lot emotionaly lately and can't seem to focus on the day to day tasks of life, much less do the one thing my owner demands and expects as per the basis of our relationship which is skull sex and deep throat. He loves it on average 6 times a day and I just haven't been able to be as into as he likes. He has told me our relationship is in major trouble if I can't get myself together and focus, but it seems like any time I try, I'm too distracted for either of us to enjoy it. I adore him and he is an awesome owner, the dissapointment in his eyes is killing me. Any ideas on how I might be able to go the extra mile to keep him happy while I'm sorting out my own issues?

Answer
Dear Princess

Thank you for the question. I am sorry to hear you are having difficulties. Not knowing what your are going though emotionally or what the root of the emotional issues are it would be hard for me to give you specifics..

One thing that really seems to help when i am struggling with something is to spend some time writting and really looking at what has you off balence.

Another thing i would like to encourage you to do is to talk with your owner. As you well know they only know where we are at through our words and actions. It might also be helpful to enlist the help of your owner.. even if you are not sure how he can help... let him know that too but that it might be helpful just knowing that he is thinking about how to help might make you feel better.

I will say this, even in Master slave relationship consideration for where both master and slave are at is very important. Holding the relationship hostage by say the relationship is in real trouble if you cant start focusing, may not be as productive or produce the outcome he would like. As we all know emotional difficulties generally pass with time but how they pass and how we come out of them as a couple, greatly depends on how both parties handle the process...

I hope this has been somewhat helpful.. please feel free to ask follow up questions if needed

Warmest regards and best of luck
slave ziggy