Expert: awhitecloud - 7/21/2009

Question
This is actually a two-part question.

1) My husband and I are currently bedroom BDSM practitioners.  The thought of being a 24/7 slave to him is highly intriguing and arousing to me.  I suppose that, in some ways, I already live it lightly.  I am a stay-at-home wife and mother who never asks him to lift a finger.  Nothing pleases me more than serving him and making him comfortable.  I even make a point to take off his boots for him when he returns home each day (he is a soldier).  I am actually the one who introduced him to BDSM, so I do not think he is actually at all familiar with the idea of a 24/7 M/S relationship.  However, he has made statements and responses that lead me to think he would enjoy it.  Do you know of any sources that I could use to educate both of us on this subject?

2) We have a seven month old daughter, and we plan to have more children.  How does one manage this kind of lifestyle when there are children in the house?

Answer
I am not sure of any sites other then just general D/s ones. And it sounds like you are already for the most part being a 24/7 submissive. You just could define it better and add things that he may like or enjoy into it.

As two the second part of this question, well I would say in my life it was never a big thing around out children,  They calling Dad Sir as well as other adults outside out home was just how they knew to be for it was all they knew.  No we did not play in front of them, once a month we had a friend that took them for a night and we had play time.  They did know at times that Mom would brake a rule and have to write an essay or some other thing was done.  Just as they where punished for braking the rules.

The night they where gone was also the day of the munch and then the play party that followed, so we had time with like minded others.  And a lot of our friends where into the lifestyle and well.  Our children just thought it was normal for the most part.  We did not act differently when the kids friends came over and manners as well our everyday life was about me serving Dad and meeting his needs, and they learned to as well.  When they where older and ask questions they where told about the lifestyle and that is what we had chosen to live.  It also helped us in the fact that we attended church regularly and it is not that much off from what was learned there.

I hope this helps some and please feel free to ask more questions if there is anything else that I can help you with.  Thank you for the questions.

awhitecloud