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Hi Lady Aryana!
I am new to the idea of 24/7 chastity, and was just wondering what the personal/professional market place is to find a Domme for keyholding?
I think I would be looking for friendship, with infrequent real life meetings (BTW, how does Long distance chastity work? Key wise). Basically enough personal connection to make it REALLY good, but without the responsibility of any other type of relationship. I guess my experience has told me that most women want that relationship aspect, so gather it'd also be true for 24/7 chastity.
Do you think a professional 24/7 keyholder would be as rewarding?
thanks.
Kevin,
I would have to say no that you would not find this kind of relationship rewarding, sin you already guess that your experience has told you most women want..... For this kind of relationship to be rewarding for you, you have to be able to accept that this is not like most relationships, this is something you and who ever holds the key has worked out to help you in a time where you could not find this relationship anywhere else.
As for how it works, well you find a key holder, and you work out some kind of agreement where you both can agree on the terms of how she will control the release of you when shes not able to do it. Does she send the key to you? Or does she send the key to someone she knows in your area?
No relationship if going to be rewarding if you do not walk into it knowing the ground rules, and what and how things work, and just what is expected from you, and whom ever you get involved with, be it long distance, or be it 24/7.
Good luck, and I hope you find what you are looking for.
Lady Aryana
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Lady Aryana
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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Old Guard, Victorn Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Email groups for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. I was collared to my Master, then we married Sept 25 2003. I am no longer in a relationship with him, although as D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either DD or D/s, or simply learning more in order to help others.
Experience
I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment although I am in a DD based relationship which has a very strong sense of D/s although it is NON sexual. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me, and at the moment I have to male slaves who would like to submit. Simply haven't had the time or place to do that yet. I know many egroups who can offer support. I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 22 yrs in BDSM in one way or another
Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I belong to the local BDSM community in AL, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.
Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.
Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and Old Guard. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.
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