Expert: Mistress Violette - 8/28/2009

Question
I am new to this...i am a sub, my dom wants me to call her mistress, however i am not so comfortable calling her that. what else can i call her???

Answer
Hi, Kiddo,

I don't have enough information to know the exact nature of your relationship so all I can go on is your statement that you're a sub. In that case, if your dominant wants you to call her Mistress, there's probably not a lot of leeway, you call her what she wants you to call her. Since you say you're uncomfortable with that, I have a suggestion.

First, do you know why you're uncomfortable calling her Mistress? If not, take some time to figure that out. You may find it's not the problem you think it is and you actually can adhere to her wishes. If not, you'll be able to explain to her what the problem is, because you're going to have to take it up her. After all, she's the dom, it's her decision. You can't just decide you have a better idea, so that's what you'll do. After you've explained why you want to, you can ask permission to call her something other than Mistress. You can offer alternatives - Ma'am, Madam and Miss come to mind - or she may have alternative suggestions of her own. It's good to advise your dominant of problems. Just bear in mind that you may not like her solution but doing what the dominant wants is what submission is all about.

Mistress Violette