Expert: Oscar G. - 8/27/2009

Question
Hello I wonder if you can help. I am male, 29 heterosexual with limited experience.  My friend is an experienced sub and we have decided i am a "switcher" 70%sub 30%dom. I find pain and submission erotic and i also like to dominate in certain situations.
My dilemma is i have a urge to partake in binding a Knife play, but i would like to be the dom. I will only do this with a certain close friend of mine. She could be considered a switcher aswell, 80%dom 20%sub. She likes the idea of Knife play but being dominated. I like this idea but am afraid on wheather i could carry out her request. I have images on what i'll do but will it be enough for her. And how big and how sharp should the blade be?

Answer
Hi Elliot:

In this type situation I would call for  total balance and control. Both of you being new to knife/edge play it would be good to find all the info you can on the web about it, and if you live in a big city with active BDSM community, maybe  merits a class. You would need something with total wrist control that would do what you want in your  hand. No fancy highly ornate blade. But something that is not heavy and has a dull side you can also play with it without cutting.  I know you perhaps can do some small scrapes and irritation...But  the first times  perhaps the psychological play is better. The point should be sharp enough to scratch and just  sharp enough to cut cloth (perhaps one of the best uses  for it, mentally) but a flat side to play with it without cutting can also be recommended, something that cuts in one direction only.

But after learning more, confidence and trust you could figure out your style and   intensity of play may change and your  blade needs will shift accordingly. I know it is a bit general and not specific, but it is different with each  person. So do your research and find what you want to do and from there the type of blade will be  easier to find.

I hope this helps. Be well and  be safe.
Oscar G.