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Expert: - 8/4/2009


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Hi my boyfriend has gone through a lot of changes in the last 6 or 7 months and his dr says he my have depression and that is wat is causing his loss of hid sex drive. before he was with he he was very heavly into this life style and just shortly before he started seeing me he stopped. i have been reading up on all of this and i was just wondering if you had any help as to how i can get his sex drive back up again? it is very depressing as he doesnt feel like having sex very often and to know that he was into it so much before kind of hurts. i am not very experienced with sex let alone anything like this but i am willing to learn from him and i have told him this before that i want him to teach me and show me what he likes but it still hasnt changed? is there anything that i can to to maybe help him out of this situation?

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I am sorry that your feeling lost and hurt, but I not do not deal much at all with sex.  I find it a personal issue and not one I really get into with people at all.  

Maybe you need to start reading online and learning some about the lifestyle on your own.  Maybe he does not know what to teach you or how.  Another thing that can help you both to grow is to attend munches and make some like minded friends.


I am sorry if I am not much help but this is truly not the issues I deal with most.

I hope that I have helped even a little bit, I wish you both luck.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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