Expert: Oscar G. - 8/2/2009

Question
I am submissive and my boyfriend is a switch. However, he tends more towards a submissive, but I know he enjoys being dominant.  When he is being submissive I am at a loss, I will sometimes try to be more dominant if he is being really submissive, but it doesn't feel right. I want him to be happy but I am uncomfortable as anything but a sub. Any ideas on how I could have him be dominant more often, or so I at least felt more comfortable when he was not?

Answer
Hi Linnea:

You should explain the situation to him and your needs. Maybe he will understand and take more on the Dom role for love of you, even if not for his natural inclination. But some people might argue with me that it goes  against his nature so he is being 'forced' upon something not quite right. But if he is switch, he will please you as much as you are trying to please him.
Then again, the answer may be for you bot be submissive to a 3rd person. It is only a possibility if you both would consider it  arousing and agreeable. Yet only as a a way to share something together and if it appeals to you both.  But i assume you want him dominant toward you. Then the only option if to talk and put cards on the table to explain your needs and he explain his, and from there  find a middle ground. If there is love, i believe  by  communication and compromise a couple can reach many places.
I hope this helps and best wishes your way.
Oscar G.