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Expert: Lady Aryana - 9/28/2009


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Hi there, my wife and i are experimenting with the master/slave relationship with me being the master.  I was just wondering if there was any tips you can give me for how i should be acting towards my slave?

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Damian,

This is up to you and her.. If she wants to be a complete slave then treat her as you wish, as long as you don't risk her or you getting arrested.. Here are some books and sites I would suggest you learn from,

The Compleat Slave: Creating And Living An Erotic Dominant/submissive Lifestyle  by Jack Rinella and Joseph W. Bean  He also has one called the Compleat Master

Screw the roses, send me the thorns

SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission

The Master's Manual: A Handbook of Erotic Dominance

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame and Gloria Brame

Training With Miss Abernathy: A Workbook for Erotic Slaves and Their Owners by Christina Abernathy

Flogging: The Basics and Beyond (SMTech Educational) by Joseph W. Bean


Here are some web sites I suggest you read, although remember sites will give you what one person thinks is correct, by no means does it mean it's law, remember BDSM is about Safe, sane, and consensual..

http://www.bestslavetraining.com/Behavior.htm

http://www.gloria-brame.com/

http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/BDSMinfo/training.htm

http://www.leathernroses.com/lnrhome.htm

http://rainbowrope.com/howto/

http://www.leatherpage.com/index.html  You want to sign up for Jack Rinella Emails.. Though he is Gay he writes for everyone and offers wonderful advice..

http://www.newagequest.com/dsindex.html


Take what you think will work for you, and throw out the rest, BDSM comes in many flavors, you simply need to find what works for you, and what doesn't.. Remember you are going to be the Master, so you need to figure out what it means to be in control of her, and take care of her, while in turn she takes care of you..

Are you going to decide what she eats, what she wears, how she dresses, how the money is going to be spent, and so forth.. All these things needs to be figured out and worked out between the two of you..

Good luck, and I hope you figure this out and things work out for you

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Fem Dom relationships, Male Dom/fem slave, Master/slave relationships M/f, F/f, Long Distance relationships, Leather community, Old Guard, Victorn Lifestyle, BDSM play, Community support, Full time slavery and submission *living together, and how to adjust, protocols, and so forth. Email groups for help with finding others in your area. HOH or DD relationships. I was collared to my Master, then we married Sept 25 2003. I am no longer in a relationship with him, although as D/s has always been a part of me I am still active in looking for a relationship either DD or D/s, or simply learning more in order to help others.

Experience

I have been in long distance relationship that were D/s relationships. I have owned both male and female slaves/submissive, I have been both a real time slave, submissive, and submissive wife. I am not in a committed relationship at the moment although I am in a DD based relationship which has a very strong sense of D/s although it is NON sexual. I am not collared, and I still am always on the look for others to play with around me, and at the moment I have to male slaves who would like to submit. Simply haven't had the time or place to do that yet. I know many egroups who can offer support. I have been active in the BDSM community and a DM for play parties. I have been active for the last 22 yrs in BDSM in one way or another

Organizations
I was active in the GA community when I lived there. I belong to the local BDSM community in AL, Belong to PEP, and other BDSM clubs over the yrs.

Publications
Egroups, Blogs, Journals, And some story writings.

Education/Credentials
Have taken work shops for different BDSM events. Attended SELF given demo's, Been a DM for play parties and private and public clubs. Attending gathering of both D/s, Spanking lifestyles. I have been active in HOH and DD relationships. I was active in the leather community while living in GA. I was trained Victorian and Old Guard. I have trained both Master's and Mistress' along with slaves in the yrs I have been in BDSM.

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