Expert: Mistress Violette - 9/29/2009

Question
Misress Vioette
Being a newbie to this lifestyle I started corresponding with a female slave who has a Mater Her Master is marry In the beginning she wanted to leave cause there is no physical love between her and her Master I became very fond of this slave over the course of time Now I am told that she is not going to leave Help!

Answer
Hello, William,

I'm sorry this happened to you. I wish I had a solution for you that would make it better but I don't. This is one of those unfortunate situations that happen between people. It really has more to do with relationships than BDSM, so you'll need to handle it the way you would any relationship that doesn't pan out. All you can do is respect her wishes. Understand that it's nobody's fault; you have no control over changes in someone else's life. Then make it a point to do things that help you move on.

Since you're new to BDSM, you might want to take this time to do some exploring. There's a wealth of information right here at AllExperts. Take a look at some of the answers here, even if they don't pertain to your situation right now. Some of the answers contain links to other resources and it would be good to check out a few of those, too. As a newcomer to BDSM, you don't yet have experience to offer a prospective sub. Knowledge is the next best thing.

You've started on what can be an exciting and fulfilling journey, William. Please don't let this incident be too much of a set back. I wish you the best as you learn and enjoy BDSM.

Mistress Violette