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I am not in an M/s relationship and I just beginning to explore the lifestyle. I had a very brief run-in with the lifestyle and ever since have been trying to deny it. I cannot anymore. I enjoyed being a sub too much. As I said it was very brief, only 3 days about 9 months ago.

I am trying to find someone to train with in the Baltimore/Washington area. Do you have any suggestions about what I should do?

andrea

Answer
andrea,

I know a number of very qualified people in that area.

Are you looking for a lover or for a Mentor?

If Mentor, what areas of training are you seeking?

Are you seeking training as a submissive or as a slave?

You might want to join the free site: www.FetLife.com  If you do, you're welcome to link to me as Dr_Bob  This is the "Facebook" for kinksters.  VERY active site.  Real kinksters, not pretenders.

This is where you can do a search on "Baltimore" and see who's around.  Probably hundreds.  

Once I get some replies from you, I can give you some suggestions.

For starters, there is a MAsT chapter in Baltimore -- Masters And slaves Together.  http://mast-baltimore.org/officers.shtml  Master David -- Chapter President -- is a friend of mine and would be able to guide you, personally.

Bob  

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Robert Rubel

Expertise

Master/slave theory and practice, using protocols to make your world special, communication glitches within the M/s framework, serious problem solving in an M/s relationship, fire play.

Experience

Author of: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice; Protocol Handbook for the Female slave (The gender-free version is titled: Protocol Handbook for the Leather slave. They are essentially the same.) M/s Relations: Communications 401 - the Advanced Course; M/s Relations: Solutions 402 -- Living in Harmony There are other books, but only these are relevant to this category. ... and a few others. By the way, my slave is on the far left, and my Owner is in the middle. We've been together over six years, and have lived as a Leather Family since June, 2006.

Organizations
MAsT, NLA-I

Publications
See my website: www.RubelPresents.com and go to the "publications" tab.

Education/Credentials
PhD, Urban Education Policy Studies with a minor in criminology, U of Wisconsin, Madison. Have presented over 30 times in 2007 and 2008 at major weekend Leather and BDSM conferences. These are all listed on my website, www.RubelPresents.com along with all my presentation topics.

Awards and Honors
Pantheon of Leather Community Choice - Man, 2008

Past/Present Clients
I am currently mentoring two people, listed on my FetLife profile of Dr_Bob. I particularly enjoy mentoring FemDommes -- they often listen better. I have successfully transformed a select number of people. It's not a question of what I offer, it's a question of what you bring to the table.

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