Expert: awhitecloud - 1/24/2010

Question
Hi, I am seeking a sub opinion (although if a D/M wants to also shed some light, that would be welcomed also)

I am new to the wonderful world(although can i say i have actually entered it because rather than a few explorations with past partners, it has not yet gone from Online to Real time?) ...I have been researching for a number of years however and have recently found a Dominant/Mentor of sorts...(although it rather just happened and was not planned at all!)
A bit of backstory with this might be needed. we are hoping to pursue this off line (I am in another country, so for now until things are worked out, we are of course taking it slow, getting to know each other as much as possible - or as much as one can online, and while it has only been 4 months, if all goes well I will be going over there to see if we mesh in person as well as we do online)

I was thinking something recently, and have had a small discussion with Him about it, but I am still not sure - so I thought I would ask around!

Sometimes, or rather most times in our "online time" i refer to myself as she and have fallen into it on the telephone without much thought( i actually did it in front of a friend who looked at me oddly *blush*), although on the phone, it is a mixture of the two. And it makes me wonder why? Why am i referring myself in the third person? I know that sometimes it is easier to convey my thoughts when i tell him how 'she is feeling'

I am wondering if it is because i am just speaking to him allot and have just progressed into his language, or if there another reason as to why i am she..

I/she hopes this makes sense,
Thanks!
(knows there will be soo many more questions coming)


Answer
You are free to send me any of your questions.

I think the Third person way of speaking comes in more as you are using it with your Master.  Some require this way of speaking others do not.  And the more you use this one place the more it will become in you everyday way of talking.  It is a comfort zone for many and just becomes a way of being.  Just as saying Sir or Ma'am does in everyday life.  You may have and find that others think it is odd, but come to accept that is just the way that you speak.

I do not think it is wrong or right, and I am sure your friends may notice the change, some may ask you about it, and others will just accept that you have changed to being that way.  It will seem odd for them but in no time they will not even notice it at all any longer.

I have some friends that do speak of themselves in the third person, at first it was different, but it is and has never been anything I really paid much attention to over all.  It does not make them the person they are.  It is just like the way others speak and call even a soda a pop it is just how they are.

Just be yourself and talk the way that you are most comfortable. :-)

I hope this helps you some.

awhitecloud