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Hello...  I have a couple of questions if you don't mind.  I have recently got back in touch with a friend of mine that I met about 5 years ago, and we talked a very long time..  Now, that I am back in touch with him, we have grown closer. He has been in the lifestlye for several years, I have never been in a relationship in this lifestyle.  He is a very sweet, gentle, and kind Dom, I have always loved the way he treats me.  The thing I have is, I live far away from him, as in a different country.  I would like to know if there are ways to find out if he is for real? I mean he's been online for a very long time.. BUt, do you have any clues, tips, or advice as to how I could make sure before I go any futher?  The other question is do you know of any chat rooms or other submissives that I could talk to? I live in the US.  Thank you so much for your time..

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First off join www.fetlife.com and look for local munches in your area and get to know others.  You can ask him to scan his drivers license and e-mail it to you. Ask him for personal references.  others that know him in real life as a Dom.  If you only know him on line keep your guard up, as what you have on line is not the same all the time to what happens in real time.  Do you use a cam so you can see each other?  

You can look me up as well on line and I will be happy to talk with you.  I can be reached at awhitecloud@gmail.com.  thanks

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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