Expert: Eirene Nayar - 1/26/2010

Question
im new to this lifestyle and am still working on if its rite for me. my new Master after just 2 mo. is saying he loves me. i cannot return the feelings to him. he cant believe im such a natural at this. and is very impressed. here is my question, how will i  really know its 4 me? everything fits well, but  dont know if i want this  24/7 im afraid ill loose me.

Answer
Hi

Being a new submissive can be a very scary thing at first.  I would suggest talking with your Master about your fears.  They are all very natural especially in the beginning.  And love does not need to be a part of it for all slaves.  And your time together has been really short.  As trust deepens so may the love however that does not happen to everyone.

As for how to know if this is for you?  Question your motivation for wanting to be a 24/7 slave.  What drives you to it?  Have you always been submissive?  What drew you to BDSM?  What aspects or characteristics does a Master need to have to gain your full submission? Have you filled out a BDSM checklist?  If not then do one.  It can clarify a great many things.  Ask your Master to write out for you his list of rules and or expectations for you.  This may make you a little less nervous about the future.

In a deep bonded Master slave relationship you submit yourself..body, soul, heart...everything.  Not in one day or even a couple months..its a gradual progression.  And the more you give up to your Master the happier and more carefree and more devoted in service you will become.  You will not "loose you"  you will find you.  Everything else falls away to reveal the true you..unprotected by the walls needed in conventional society.  You will feel more free  in your bondage of slavery then you ever did in the vanilla world.  All the dreams your heart ever searched for come full circle and a sense of peace and completeness pervades your body.

I hope this has helped some,

Eirene