Expert: awhitecloud - 1/19/2010

Question
I should start by saying I'm a collard Sub and Master and I have been together for just under 2 years now, we do not live together but do work together. Master is a full time single dad and I a f/t single Mother.

I have just found out that I’m pregnant I have been using birth control and still cant figure out how it happen.

anyway Master does not want any more children and I will be happy with or with more. I have been on pins and needles and very distant to him the last few days I found out 5 days ago from the doctors.

I need to tell him but the problem is he is so stressed out right now with work and new business that he just bought I don’t want to add to his stress by telling him that I might have messed up and got pregnant.

Can you help should I wait out the stress or should I just get it out of the way and tell him so we can move forward.

Thanks
mush


Answer
no you need to go to him and sit down and tell him now.  And that is not all your fault it takes to to make a baby.  And I hate to say it but I got pregnant twice on birth control pills.  It does not always work, and it is not you fault.  You did not mess up, and putting it off for a better time....well the better time will never come.  Just tell him now you need him to help you and to lead you.  And if he did not want any more kids he would have made sure and gotten himself fixed if he did not want to wear a jacket.  Since he wanted to not help out he is just as much responsible, for not keeping it covered.

I hope this has helped maybe a little.

awhitecloud