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Expert: Eirene Nayar - 1/2/2010


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Might i ask Your opinion please of the difference between and Owner and a Dominant

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My opinion is that a person can be a Dominant and not own anyone.  An owner usually owns another person in a 24/7 type of relationship.  Something more permanent then a casual thing for sure.  

Being dominant is a personality trait.  Being an owner is an expression of that dominance over another persons life. A collar can be a symbol of that ownership but not always.  It does mean though that the submissive has given their rights away in varying degrees depending on the parameters of the relationship.  And that the Dominant/owner has agreed to accept all the responsibilities that go along with that.

A person can be a dominant and never own anyone but an owner is almost always a dominant.  Its the nature of the dynamics of D/s, M/s.

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In a deep bonded Master slave relationship you submit yourself..body, soul, heart...everything. Not in one day or even a couple months..its a gradual progression. And the more you give up to your Master the happier and more carefree and more devoted in service you will become. You will not "loose you" you will find you. Everything else falls away to reveal the true you..unprotected by the walls needed in conventional society. You will feel more free in your bondage of slavery then you ever did in the vanilla world. All the dreams your heart ever searched for come full circle and a sense of peace and completeness pervades your body. I can help you with the discovery of learning if this life is right for you. Issues with the dynamics of the Master slave relationship. How to be the very best slave. How to know if a Master is the right fit for you. Dealing with the heartbreak and emotions when the relationship ends. How a polyamory household can work. What it means to accept a collar. Slave protocol. Long Distance relationships. How to take an online relationship and make it real life.

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I have been a collared slave for over 2 1/2 years. I started knowing nothing at all and have built on this over that time. So my experience is through actual experience. However I also remember what its like to be knew to the lifestyle. With all the fears, anxieties and excitement that has.

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I have a bachelor's degree in sociology.

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