Expert: ziggy ziegler - 1/8/2010

Question
I am a single mother, not currently working, but going to school online.  I have recently been introduced to the idea of being a slave, and while i enjoy it, i am worried about the time i have been taking away from my young daughter, talking online later than i should and consequently sleeping too late into the day.  My master has granted me a brief reprieve so i can think about things some more, as the other day i was frightened by the thought i would lose my little girl.  i was performing a task my master had set for me using ben wa balls, and i couldn't run after my daughter when she got too close to the street and she was almost hit.  It is something i cannot allow to happen again as she means more to me than anything else in this world.  My question is, how can i remain in this relationship with my master and still spend the time i need with my daughter?  He lives an hour away and i cannot get a babysitter to go see him.  He works second shift 7 days a week and cannot come see me often.

Answer
Greetings Angel
Thank you for your question.
There are a few things here i would like to address.

First, your daughter comes first... as a mother you know this and your master should as well. Dominance and mastery can co exist with having children if both the master and the slave have their priorities in order...and if the master acknowledges the slave is a mother first responsibility. i think for the both of you it’s going to be a matter of assessing what areas of control he may realistically be able to assert on you and what is actually doable. For me anything that interferes with the care of your child is off limits.

It’s hard for me to say these things because i want to always believe that relationships are all doable if all parties are willing to work together. However, i also know that sometimes the mere physics of it don’t lend itself to that possibility.

I believe its a challenge to be single and a parent even without the master slave dynamic. Masters of single parent slaves really need to dig deep and discover ways to assert their dominance and control in ways that support the slave’s responsibilities. Honestly, when it comes to children they must come first and he should know that. Saying things like "you need to think about if you can really do this or not" is a true and honest question.  However, it does smack of the burden on you and not sharing in learning how you BOTH can make this work.

Also its my feeling that master and slave relationships are best actualized in real time. If you found him you will find another. If the physical connection isn’t possible and that is what you need...something to think about. Also his willingness to also give of his time in real times is something to consider.

Please understand as I am not there with you and don’t know all the elements of your personal situation so my answers and perspectives are based solely on my personal experience.. You are the only one that can follow your hearts desire. However please don’t count yourself out. There are many  single parent slaves out there that are actualizing their slavery in a healthy and  fulfilling way without damaging the relationship they have with their childern.

Best wishes
slave ziggy
Author "Slave Quarters"