Expert: ziggy ziegler - 1/24/2010

Question
i am a new slave whom is failing at pleasing her Master. i struggle the most with respecting Him. i react or respond too quickly to things without thinking and disrespecting Him. Please advise or share tips on how to do this maybe excersises that will help.

Answer
Greetings Lisa

Thank you for your question and i am sorry to hear you are struggling.

I hope that i can offer your some insite as to my own experiences as a slave.

I know that you used the word "respect." Could you really mean mindfulness. This to me is a bit different. Getting involved with a new master, can often time bring great challenges to our thinking as slaves. This is especially true when perhaps there is not alot of experience on the part of the slave or if the slave has been with out a master for any period of time. Making adjustments to the masters new rule and protocols of speech and movement/presentation can be a challenge. I find one thing that helps is to practice mindfulness. Know that each time you respond to your  owner you are communicating more than a yes sir, no sir.. Mind and body must be in sync if we want to communication the correct intent. If my intent is to communicate a sincere desire to be owned by this particular Master then my actions have to reflect that.

On thing i tell other slaves with similar challenges. Working on ways to slow down your thinking and focus is critical. The slaves thought process is crucial. Asking your self and exploring your true feelings about slavery  and surrender is a good place to start. Why are you his slave? if it is for what you can offer him/her or is it what he or she can give you? Is what you master is asking of you more that what you are able to give? I personally use a simple mantra to help shape my own thinking though out the say....."all that i am and all that i do is in service to Master" Doing some reading and going to slave classes is another way to improve your understanding of surrender from other slaves perspective. I like a yahoo group called THEARTOFSLAVERY@yahoogroups.com. There are other websites out there but seems you are looking for something a little less fantasy oriented so be careful.

Are there exercises to do? Other then the mantras and mindfulness approach slavery.... its really a matter of self discovery and a way of looking at your station as a slave to a master. Its knowing yourself and knowing what you are communicating to the one who owns you.... keep working at it and if this is what you truly want it will come... give it time hun and don't stress out.....


Now because i am not there and i don't know any more information than you offered in your question
i am limited as to the amount of guidance to offer. However since you used the word respect,, i have to mention this...If you meant respect as opposed to having issues with mindfulness and proper responses and or actions.... for me if i find that i don't respect the master i have no business being owned by them. The very basis of M/s dynamic revolves around obedience, trust and respect.

I hope that i have offered you some insite and i wish you the very best. As i mentioned,,, it takes time and if this is your path and you are willing to stick with it it will come. Surrender is never easy but always worth it..

warmest regards and best wishes
slave ziggy
House of Talonstar