Expert: CougarDomme - 1/14/2010

Question
I am a female who has been in a vanilla relationship with a female partner for 13 years.  She has recently entered a submissive relationship with another woman with whom she has a 6month contract. Currently she has a bracelet but will get a collar when and if the contract is renewed in 6 months, which I expect it will be. Although we have a loving relationship, we have not had sex for years.  I was handed this information with little preparation and no discussion. She says that her relationship with her Master is separate from ours and has nothing to do with our relationship, which she still wants to maintain, and I have no interest in participating in the BDSM lifestyle, but I'm wondering if our relationship has much chance of continuing to be viable under these circumstances. I appreciate any help you can give.  

Answer
So much really depends on the relationship you have with your partner.  BDSM can be a separate part of someone's life so you will have to weigh in how you feel about it.  If you can deal with it because it's a hard-wired need of your partner then it's not a big deal--this of it as a hobby like gardening or aerobics that you don't participate in because you aren't interested.