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I've been curious about BDSM for a while now. I've finally turned 18, and really would like to get some first hand experience. However, because of the small town I live in, It has been very difficult to find anyone to help me with this 'problem'. Any suggestions?

Answer
okay well you can join WWW.fetlife.com and learn through groups as well see if you can find others in your area.  

There are munch groups all over and you might need to just see if there is something happening in a larger town near you.

But learning as much as you can about the lifestyle is a good place to start.  There are all different aspects of the lifestyle and some you may like and want to know more about others will not be for you, and that is okay that is why the lifestyle is so cool.  You can take on and embrace that which you like and leave what you do not like alone.  

there are a number of books you can order and read that will help you as well.  Some local book stores may have then even.  

Take it slow and well find others you can talk with or even chat with on line, they can lead and direct you along your walk.

Thanks for the questions and I hope that I have helped you some.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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