Expert: awhitecloud - 10/5/2010

Question
Hello, my ex-girlfriend and I have recently decided to enter
a relationship again with a slight twist. We want to
maintain the good friendship we have now and have a Dom/sub
relationship. On one of our many nights spent talking, the
told me she was interested in the BDSM lifestyle. I never
considered it and so I have no information other than what I
have gathered online. I am the Dom and she is the Sub. We
are slowly exploring this side of us and so far it has been
incredible. A few things I was wondering if I could get some
help with. One of which being the name aspect. I always call
her baby, sub, slave, or her given name. She always calls me
baby, sir, master or my given name. I understand that making
her my slave is a major step. How do we go about making it
official I guess? Any tips for a brand new, fresh out of the
box Dom? Thank you so much for your time!

Answer
Names are each to it's own you call each other what works for you. some use different names when at home or out in public. But it is an each to it's own thing. Learning the correct names to use at events, and parties is always a good thing, but most of the time you just set up your own thing.

If you are a member of a local munch group or other group in your area many have ceremonies with the group.  Or if you have some close friends, you invite them over to witness the event. Taking this step is the same as marring her, and should not be ever treated lightly.

Meet some others in your area join www.fetlife.com and join some new Dom groups and talk with others. Learn on your own and with her. Give her topics to go off and write essay about and read them together. Learn how to be a good Dom and get into your local munch group where you can make and have like minded friends.  Learn before you leap into making her your slave. Be safe and make sure everything is agreed upon in all aspects.  Communicate both of you stare a daily journal so you can grow and learn and see where you are at.

I wish you luck and I hope that it goes well for you both.  Look me up on fetlife if you join, and you can always come back here and ask more questions as well.

Thank you

awhitecloud