Expert: awhitecloud - 10/8/2010

Question
I must say I have so many questions I really have no idea where to start.  This isn't the first time I have thought of this lifestyle although the first time I ran out of fear and ignorance. I met a wonderful man and somehow we have slipped into this. It started as role play but has developed into something  more than that. I have found I like the slave role doing all I can to please him.  I have complete trust in him as far as my safety goes body and soul.  While neither of us is very experienced and have both admitted to not being into the pain aspect of it we have definitely come to enjoy the control aspect. We are hoping to move ahead and have discussed me wearing a collar. please explain to me the theory and meaning of wearing a collar.  and will appreciate any and all guidance you can give.  I have lead a very vanilla life and am sure some will still think it so until now and as i said the first time ran.  I am not running this time.  I need to know more to better serve my Master.

Answer
A collar is like a wedding ring it is the commitment that you have and make for each other.

Most start with a Training collar well they are getting into the relationship. Thus being like an engagement ring!

It is a big thing in the lifestyle and the collar is to be held with great respect at all times. It is big for you as well him, as he has a lot of work to do and stay on top of in order for you to be the best sub you can at all times.

Just please take it slow and know that it is all a large step for you both and it needs to be looked at carefully before you just jump to act on giving a collar as well receiving one.

I do wish you the best and I hope you have a great relationship in the time that is in front of you both.

thank you for the question,

awhitecloud