Expert: ziggy ziegler - 10/25/2010

Question
I met my sub a couple of nights ago, today he dumps me, what would be the best way to get him back, he is ignoring my calls and text.

Thank you

Answer
Greetings Jac


I am sorry to hear about your struggles with your relationship.

As much as i would love to be able to give you a laundry list of tactics you could try in order get entice your sub to come back to you; i am afraid it might not be possible unless he is willing to open the lines of communication. Perhaps by attempting to understand why he has chosen not to communicate might be helpful even if its just for you.

I think sometimes the new newness of a D/s relationship can prove to be very intense. ( often like atoms colliding ) Although the feelings associated with a new D/s relationship can feel fantastic the truth is, that for some people it can be to much. Perhaps his way of dealing with intense situations is to excommunicated.

The other thing might very well be that there are other stresses going on in his life that require his focus. I don't believe that is a reason to just stop communicating after only three days into his surrender to you but as you well know the world is made up of people we just can't understand.i do believe this is information for you either in how to handle things with this sub or others you may be connected to.

My advice, be hopeful that he will call with some understandable reason, while at the same time accepting that he may not.

I wish you the very best in this situation and hope that some communication is forthcoming.

warmest regards
slave ziggy