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Master recently died and i would like some help on how to deal with this in a
rational way. He was my first Master, so very emotionally attached to Him. Its
hard to say what i feel but if you could help with any advice i would be ever
grateful.
Natalia,
First, my heart goes out to you profoundly. I'm both Owned and own a slave. If my Owner were to die, I have no idea how I would handle it.
From my heart, my recommendation to you is to join www.FetLife.com -- it's free -- and post that question in the Master/slave Group.
That way, you'll get LOTS of input, doubtless including people who have gone through this before.
I'm not the person to ask. I have Asperger Syndrome and the most common issue with AS is a disconnect with feelings.
My slave is an empath and a Reiki healer. If you can find a really qualified Reiki healer, he/she may be able to close your wound. I know that sounds woowoo, but I've seen her do things with people that are beyond explanation.
In one case, the spirit of a dead close friend had attached itself to her and mindi was able to remove it. Her immediate reaction was: "Wow! I feel so light, now." We've checked back with this lady a number of times and it is completely gone.
If you join Fetlife, I'm Dr_Bob and you're welcome to "friend" me.
Bob
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Robert Rubel
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Master/slave theory and practice, using protocols to make your world special, communication glitches within the M/s framework, serious problem solving in an M/s relationship, fire play.
Experience
Author of:
Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice;
Protocol Handbook for the Female slave (The gender-free version is titled:
Protocol Handbook for the Leather slave. They are essentially the same.)
M/s Relations: Communications 401 - the Advanced Course;
M/s Relations: Solutions 402 -- Living in Harmony
There are other books, but only these are relevant to this category.
... and a few others. By the way, my slave is on the far left, and my Owner is in the middle. We've been together over six years, and have lived as a Leather Family since June, 2006.
Organizations
MAsT, NLA-I
Publications
See my website: www.RubelPresents.com and go to the "publications" tab.
Education/Credentials
PhD, Urban Education Policy Studies with a minor in criminology, U of Wisconsin, Madison.
Have presented over 30 times in 2007 and 2008 at major weekend Leather and BDSM conferences. These are all listed on my website, www.RubelPresents.com along with all my presentation topics.
Awards and Honors
Pantheon of Leather Community Choice - Man, 2008
Past/Present Clients
I am currently mentoring two people, listed on my FetLife profile of Dr_Bob. I particularly enjoy mentoring FemDommes -- they often listen better. I have successfully transformed a select number of people. It's not a question of what I offer, it's a question of what you bring to the table.
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