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Expert: - 11/13/2010


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Ive been married for 9 months. I have been fantasizing about being dominated for probably about a year now, and never told my husband about it. I recently told him that I want to try it, but I honestly didnt think he'd be able to give me the experience I need. Typically in our relationship/sex life hes the submissive one. He was upset that I didn't think he could be a good dom. And wants to try it for me. What I need to know is how to get him to be the dom I need.

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Both of you need to join www.fetlife.com and get mentors and get into groups as well find others in your area that you can talk and learn with.  There are a number of groups and people are very nice there, so do not be afraid to ask questions.

Talk with each other and never stop, talk and talk and I can not say it enough talk some more, communication is the key and helps to make it work.

Take it slow be safe and remember that it does not all have to be in the bedroom. Sometimes it helps to do some things outside the bedroom and to ease into it so that it is not all about sex all the time.

good luck

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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