Expert: Master Shadow - 11/14/2010

Question
I have been with my master for 6 months & we have really hit it off, but i only get to see him 1 night a week, not long into our meetings he said i had to take my profile down from all the dating sites i was on, as i need not be looking anymore & that he had found his SUB, well i joined 1 of the sites were i met my Master & he still has "his" profile up advertising for a "willing" Sub to train...WELL i thought he found his Sub ??? from what he told me, so therefore he shouldnt be still looking, he said i was collared to him...but am i "really" it breaks my heart to think he's still looking for a Sub, because i have fallen for my Master & he said we will be together for a LONG time, I do get jealous when i see him with another Sub especially if there female, & i dont want to share my Master..i am however keeping my mouth shut & not saying anything as i adore him & our time 2gether, but can u see us spending more time 2gether or is he ALWAYS going to keep me at arms length & should i look elseswere for a Dom who can give me MORE time, or perhaps wait for him to decide what he wants...ME or another...

Answer
My first question is have you spoken to your Dom about this at all? If not, start there. Ask Him what His plans are for the two of you in the future. I have to wonder, though. Are you allowed to call Him whenever you need to, or are you restricted as to when, and where you may call?

Realize, many a married man has used this ploy before to cheat on their mates, and use the Lifestyle as an excuse to do so. If you aren't allowed to call when you need, or aren't allowed to visit your Dom's house, there might be something amiss, and you will need to find out what.

The very first step in this is always ask your Dominant first, to see what's going on. If you get no answers, or the answers don't seem sincere, it may be time to seek another, who has the time to be with you, and only you. I take it that poly relationships are a hard limit, as you stated you did not want to share your Master with another.

As to waiting for Him, it is up to you as to how long you are willing to wait. Remember, you are not a doormat, and have rights, including the right to know what the future holds for you and your Master.



Hope this helps.


                                           SINcerely in Leather,
                                           Master Shadow.