Expert: awhitecloud - 12/8/2010

Question
Hello Whitecloud,

I am in a 24/7 D/s Daddy/girl relationship and have been for a few years. It has been wonderful and from the very beginning our Daddy/girl connection was very strong. The problem I am having is that in the last couple of months I am finding it harder and harder to find my little space. It began when Hy started getting angry with me when I was in little space because I was not responding with immediate submissive behavior to demands. It has happened several times that I have been 'pulled out' of girl space in order to serve Hym as Hys submissive.

We love each other dearly and we have talked at length about the D/s vs Daddy/girl dynamic and the differences vs the similarities. Communication isn't something we have difficulties with but I am afraid that due to the issue above I am losing my little. I am feeling more and more disconnected from my little and I just don't know what to do. I feel like I am losing a piece of who I am.  

Answer
well okay I have a friend i went to talk over this, as I do not know a lot about little's.  Well she said they went through a problem like this and well she has one day a week where she is to dress and be a little. It is the same day each week so that they can plan around it.  They also found another little in the local group so they could set up play dates.  it is important to stay in touch with the little aspect inside of you so they can grow in a beneficial way.

I do not know if that is do able for you, but it might be worth giving it a try, so that your Dom will then also be on the same page to treat you accordingly on that day.....It does not mean at all that there will not be other times when your little comes out and needs a Daddy.  Your Dom just needs to sometimes put is needs on hold to meet the needs of the little.

And it does not mean that the little comes out to get out of something that is required as a sub to your Dom that you may not wish to do. no I am not saying that you would I am just covering my bases.

I hope this has helped you some, if there is anything else please let me know.

thank you for the question,

awhitecloud