Expert: Oscar G. - 2/9/2010

Question
Hello. I am a new 'slave' and my Master of about 6 weeks (mostly online with one 4 day meeting) wants to move in with me. He lives 4 hours aways and it is very difficult for me to move so this could be wonderful to be able to live together... on the other hand i feel it is too soon, we do not know each other very well and have not had time to build the trust i would love to have in him. He is a very good Master, but i'm not sure of the 'man' yet. I don't want to ruin what could be a good thing but i am worried.

Answer
Hi Fiona:

Is this was not a 'Master'/'Slave'  situation would you still do this?
Would you open the door of your life to anyone whom you have  only met online and very little face to face?
SO many questions pile up on my own head about the situation, that I have to assume some of those also play in your head. Like where will he work if he moves in? what kind of  living arrangements can occur to where you live with a new person living in 24/7? What about their habits and tastes? could you live with them long term? Then there is the relationship aspects, such as how compatible are you in real day to day situations, can each live with each other idiosyncrasies,  how does chemistry work, and how well your non verbal communication work.

And then there are the BDSM aspects. How to make time for the BDSM lifestyle if there will be almost no privacy? are you both going to work? if you do who takes care of house maintenance and food?  If you will take care of everything,  will you have time to do everything you need to do?
What will he contribute?

I know the questions and some of the answers may be hard and not very fun. But they  have to be addressed, since they will happen to you and will have to confront them at some point or another.
Living with anyone requires trust, more than convenience for it to last and work. Specially if it would be a relationship within BDSM. Find the answers to those questions and even a few others you may make. Then perhaps you will have had enough knowledge and trust to embark upon that. I hope my short insight helps you making the right choice.
Best wishes. Be well, and be safe.
Oscar G.