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i really need help in how i feel in my M/s relationship.. i love my Master so much but i tend to get angry when things i don't Anna do are pushed on me is this not right such as exercise i hate exercise   things i have to change that I'm used to doing or not  its not that i cant i don't want to do them is that not a limit or is that me being stubborn?

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Greetings nyla

Thank you for your question. Not being there with you its a little difficult to get a full picture of your situation but i will try to assist you based on what you have offered thus far.

Slaves are first and foremost human, with a wide range of emotions. None of these emotions are wrong per say however, some are more conductive of a fulfilling master slave relationship.

I would say that there are occations when we need to review in our minds... what does it mean to be a slave? Why have we choosen to become a slave to this particular master? What is the most important trait of a slave? There are going to be times when Master askes us to do things that are difficult or that we really would rather not do for what ever reason but our choice to obey and our dedication to our choosen role in the relationship should be our ultimate guide.

Another thing i think is important is our ability to communicate our dificulties with Master. It may not change the fact that he or she wants us to do something but we can be more forth coming with our feelings.

Nyla.. only you can determine what it is that you feel... stuborn frustrated fearful anger annoyance all of those are fine as long as you dont let them get in the way of your honor as a person who has give their word to serve and obey....

Its ok,,,,, try to breath and work through those feelings

Again thank you for your question. i wish you the best of luck

warmest regards
slave ziggy
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I am available to answer questions pertaining to the Master slave dynamic. The slaves journey into submission, mentorship, service,leather lifestyle, household management, and training. My life's focus is assisting individuals to realized their fullest potential through self awareness.

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I am a 45 year old female slave who has been part of the BDSM/M/s lifestyle since 1983 and have traveled thought out the community presenting on a wide variety of subjects pertaining to the master slave dynamic. I am currently writing a book on topics concerning the slave. I also host a slaves retreat in TN each year which focuses on the self actualization of the consensual slave. Mentoring and life couching for those involved in power exchange relationships.

Organizations
TES MAST ROCHESTER NY MAsT national

Publications
Slave quarters: "The mind body spirit of consensual slavery" Art of slavery Tryscilian society

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Aside from learning from lifes experiences i have a BA in psychology and a masters in socialogy. i have studied gender and human sexuality in an ever changing world.

Awards and Honors
Southeast slave 2006 International slave 2006

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Masters and slaves

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