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Hi, I am a 23 year old male and i just started dating a girl I like a lot.  As long as I can remember I have had a foot fetish and really into bdsm.  I am definitely submissive.  I don't know how to explain to my fiance about my fetish and bdsm lifestyle for I am not sure how she will react.  any ideas? thanks

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okay maybe just bring up something about the lifestyle and talk with her about it and see what it leads.  Look at a site and see what reaction you get from her and see if it is something she might be interested in.  If so well then move forward and talk more about it and ask her if it is something she might be willing to try?  If so then you might want to tell her that it is something you want to put into an active part of your daily life.

Good luck if you need anything more please give me a yell.  I hope this has helped some.  Good luck.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

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I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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