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Dear Eirene Nayar,
I'm a 26 years female, single and virgin. I think so so much about BDSM as it turns me on, could you please tell if men in general are into that? I'm deeply concerned because I will get married soon and some people told me that men hate such things. I never had sex before but I think "rough" would be my type. Please let me know, thanks a million in advance
There is so much left out of your question you make it difficult for me to answer. I know nothing about your culture and it is very different then mine here in America. I will answer you the best I can.
First, what do you know of BDSM? Its more than sex it’s about the power dynamics. Have you filled out a BDSM card? What turns you on about BDSM? How long have you thought about it?
If you have never had sex before you have no clue if you like it rough or not. Generally virgins do not like it rough because their bodies are not even used to normal sex much less kinky sex.
There is no way to know if your future husband is into BDSM unless you ask him. If possible though I would like you to read as much as you can in regards to BDSM. Because honestly I do not know how you could know to much about about it and I would not want you getting scared over things you did not understand.
Good luck and I hope this has helped some.
Eirene
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Eirene Nayar
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In a deep bonded Master slave relationship you submit yourself..body, soul, heart...everything. Not in one day or even a couple months..its a gradual progression. And the more you give up to your Master the happier and more carefree and more devoted in service you will become. You will not "loose you" you will find you. Everything else falls away to reveal the true you..unprotected by the walls needed in conventional society. You will feel more free in your bondage of slavery then you ever did in the vanilla world. All the dreams your heart ever searched for come full circle and a sense of peace and completeness pervades your body. I can help you with the discovery of learning if this life is right for you. Issues with the dynamics of the Master slave relationship. How to be the very best slave. How to know if a Master is the right fit for you. Dealing with the heartbreak and emotions when the relationship ends. How a polyamory household can work. What it means to accept a collar. Slave protocol. Long Distance relationships. How to take an online relationship and make it real life.
Experience
I have been a collared slave for over 2 1/2 years. I started knowing nothing at all and have built on this over that time. So my experience is through actual experience. However I also remember what its like to be knew to the lifestyle. With all the fears, anxieties and excitement that has.
Education/Credentials
I have a bachelor's degree in sociology.
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