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I grew up with the idea to treat woman like women. My question is I met a sub and we played a few times not ever being exposed to this lifestyle she doesnt want to play anymoe becouse i dont meet her needs we see each other as friends but that is as far as it gets. how can i show the dom side of me in our time together. she has a strong personaity and we talk open about this.she says the she hasnt found the right person. how can i turn my actions in social settings to my advantage. if push to hard it doesnt work.
you need to ask her what her needs are, then do things to show her you can meet the needs that she has. If you just do what ever you think you will never get her, for that is all not meeting a need.
Ask her to sit down and to well help you to see what it is she needs and wants. Think on yourself and make a list of what you want, and then see if they match up at all.
Take it slow and you both would have to work at it together. Maybe even that it will never work with you and her ever.
Do not just push to be the Dom you think she needs, you need to talk with her and at all times still be a Dom Sir.
Thanks for the question and good luck.
awhitecloud
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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.
Experience
I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.
Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot
Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com
Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.
Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.
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