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I'm a new submissive with a new Dom. We both have virtually no experience and are feeling our way. It's on line , text and phone call relationship. We intend to meet in the future. I feel i give more than i get back. That I'm constantly , denied any pleasure, that I've changed my lifestyle for him at his request. However if i suggest/request anything its denied or rejected.Should i expect my needs to be met as well or is submission totally about serving his needs?
The lifestyle is a two way street if your not happy you need to tell him and talk to him about it. open honest communication is the key. If you can not tell him well then write it out in an e-mail and send it to him. If he does not respond to it well I think it would be best said that you need to look at moving on. There is no reason for a sub to give and not get back, you are not a door mat and never let yourself be used as one.
I am not sure how I can be more help on this. Please try to talk to him about it and see what happens. I am sorry if I am not much help.
Thank you for the questiong I wish you all the best of luck.
awhitecloud
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| Comment | thanks . i sort of solved it my own way. i went into a website which explained "how to treat your submissive" copied and pasted it into an e mail and sent it on.....seems to have worked as he replied "how can i make things better for you" we've talked a lot today and i feel made huge steps forwards....but its nice to know there an experianced resource to tap into ...so thanks again | ||
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awhitecloud
Expertise
Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.
Experience
I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.
Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot
Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com
Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.
Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.
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