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Whe me and my husband were together only a few months a noticed he had been on amateurmatch and adultfriendfinder. he admitted on his profile he was in a relationship with me. the he wrote he wanted someone who was fun,nice, open and could keep up with him in the bedroom and had similar intrest. he put he was looking for bdsm. i had proof but he still denied it. since then we have gotten married and had a son. he still wont admit it. why wont he admit it. he has never asked me to do any of that. he pretends to want vanialla sex. im actually even starting to get bored with our sex life. the only thing ive ever did was bondage and it was with a former partner. im very open to trying new things. how do i tell him that and get him to be open and honest with me so we can both be happy?
okay I am not sure how I can help...but you need to tell him just what you told me. Talk with him. If you knew this and he denied it why did you married him and have a child? Well maybe you need to start printing some things from on line out and buying books and leaving them all over the house so he will know your interested in this.
I am not sure how to help you, I am sorry and I wish you luck and hope that you can find w2haat it is that your looking for.
awhitecloud
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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.
Experience
I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.
Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot
Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com
Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.
Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.
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