Expert: Eirene Nayar - 4/2/2010

Question
I am very new to the lifestyle.  I met my Master online and have yet to meet face to face.  He lives about 3 hours away. He is being very patient with me and I am very grateful for that.  Last night we were chatting online and He said He needed pleasing.  I asked Him how could I please him and I was told to surprise him and be creative.  I froze! How can I please him from far away?  Is it fair for me to ask for more details?  I truly want to make Him happy.  Any advice?

Answer
Hello daddysgirl69,

New relationships have the constant crackle of excitement take advantage of that.  *smiles*  You do not say whether or not you talk in voice so I am going to assume you do not.

Write him something very erotic.  Maybe describing a sultry dance with some strip teasing.

Ask permission (as part of the scene) to touch him anywhere and then with written words describe every detail and every action.

What kind of things does he enjoy?  His boots kissed?  Seductive whisperings in his ear?  Nipples licked and sucked?  Whatever it is write out something describing you doing that to him.  Ask him to metaphorically lay back and let his slave bring him to the heights of pleasure he has only imagined.

Be very observant..notice what he says he likes or listen to the groans of satisfaction and remember them and build on them over time.

If you need some help to get started, read erotica.  Something with some story in it to get your thoughts and juices running.  BDSM erotica or graphic romantic erotica works very well.  Just don't forget to put your own spin on things and always always be deferential.

Have fun!

Eirene