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Expert: - 5/16/2010


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I'm a fairly new sub but I know enough to live the lifestyle to it's fullest. And my current boyfrind is someone I've fallen madly in love with but he's not a Dom. Yet. I've been introducing him to some things and finding Doms I know to help him out and he's warming up to it.... He's just really shy about applying everything he's learned and it frustrates me because I'm not sure how or when anything is supposed to happen. Also what would be good pet names for a submissive female that he would maybe feel comfortable in calling me, considering his current lack of the lifestyle...

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you just have to wait for him, and when the time is right he will act. But he might not as well, it is a chance your taking.  As to a pet name most of the time it is a name the Dom comes up with and gives to his sub....not something the sub comes up with to be called.

I hope it helps best wishes, and hang in there.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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