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I have been ... for better lack of words.. glomped onto by a sub, a real severe sub who wishes to do nothing but please me. As nice as this sounds to the Dom/sub community, I am just not that kind of person.
My question is thus: I offered to help him find a full time Dom, but I have NO idea where to go with inquiries...How can I find a Dom for my sub that I have unwittingly taken up?
Hi, Rayne, thanks for writing...
I know what you mean -- I'd be really uncomfortable with a severe sub, myself.
Now, I'm going to assume that you are male and I realize that the sub is male. If I've got that right, then there actually is a pretty quick fix. Try www.slave4master.com
Again, I don't have enough information. If gay, is he interested in a Leather relationship. If yes, if you tell me the city you're in I'll find out the name of the Leather group there and he can surely find someone.
If I'm wrong and you are female, then do an Internet search for the name of your city and "BDSM". find a local club and contact the club president. Also, if he is a male sub seeking a female Dom (FemDom), then you may have a ClubFem in your city. Depends the size of your city. Further, the book for him would be: "How to Capture a Mistress" by Karen Martin. It's specifically for submissive men who are having trouble finding a female Dom. It's a plan of action that the reader works through.
If I've missed something, feel free to write back,
Bob
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Robert Rubel
Expertise
Master/slave theory and practice, using protocols to make your world special, communication glitches within the M/s framework, serious problem solving in an M/s relationship, fire play.
Experience
Author of:
Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice;
Protocol Handbook for the Female slave (The gender-free version is titled:
Protocol Handbook for the Leather slave. They are essentially the same.)
M/s Relations: Communications 401 - the Advanced Course;
M/s Relations: Solutions 402 -- Living in Harmony
There are other books, but only these are relevant to this category.
... and a few others. By the way, my slave is on the far left, and my Owner is in the middle. We've been together over six years, and have lived as a Leather Family since June, 2006.
Organizations
MAsT, NLA-I
Publications
See my website: www.RubelPresents.com and go to the "publications" tab.
Education/Credentials
PhD, Urban Education Policy Studies with a minor in criminology, U of Wisconsin, Madison.
Have presented over 30 times in 2007 and 2008 at major weekend Leather and BDSM conferences. These are all listed on my website, www.RubelPresents.com along with all my presentation topics.
Awards and Honors
Pantheon of Leather Community Choice - Man, 2008
Past/Present Clients
I am currently mentoring two people, listed on my FetLife profile of Dr_Bob. I particularly enjoy mentoring FemDommes -- they often listen better. I have successfully transformed a select number of people. It's not a question of what I offer, it's a question of what you bring to the table.
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