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CJ wrote at 2013-05-08 20:53:03
Actually, looking around a bit, you'll find there are quite a few BDSM and D/s related chat rooms and online communities.  A simple web search will bring you to any number of these.  Yes, some of the more popular ones, http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com , http://www.collarme.com, and of course fetlife as mentioned above.



A rule of thumb that I'll point out, and it's an important one to remember,,  99% or more of all you meet online that claim to know so much about this lifestyle, in reality know little if anything about it.   You're going to need to take some time, learn to spot who is real, who isn't.  If you find yourself visiting a chat environment and you aren't comfortable with the way it's being conducted, don't hesitate to hit the exit button.  Yes, you'll find some of the online environments tend to be a bit better controlled, the number, or percentage of 'real people' is quite a bit lower than that 99% number,, but you'll also spot others that are apparently nothing more than a front for a cyber sex free for all.



I don't want to sound biased adding My comments of which chat rooms, web sites or communites are better than others, or which ones I feel are a waste of time.  That's something you'll have to decide on your own.  Just remember, trust your instincts a bit...  take your time, size things up, see how the chat room is generally handled, does the way they conduct themselves agree with your beliefs or thoughts on what this lifestyle is all about..  if it conflicts, I'd say it was time to move on, find a different chat environment.  



I hope this information helps.


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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

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I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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