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Hi,

I met this guy, really nice, sweet and handsome. Dressed well, in graduate school, has a good job and good manners.

So I Googled him and his myspace came up. On it he has a blog.

It is from 2004, and the blog is about all the girls he had sex with that he met at the bars, one night stands and wild escapades.

In it, he wrote how he met one girl, she was fat and ugly and he called her "pig girl" He took her home to fuck her but in the middle of kissing, she fell asleep and refused him sex. He woke her up and yanked her panties down, and said you can either sleep in my bed and have sex with me, or you can go home. She said no, rolled over and went to sleep again.

He was enraged with anger for tricking him into going home with her and then not giving her anything. He waited until she was asleep, and he rubbed his penis, and blew a load of semen all over her face, and left. All his myspace friends were posting saying how funny that was.

There was another posting, he worked at a gym as a personal trainer, and there was another personal trainer who was a woman, who yelled at him all the time. She was really mean and bitchy. So he went into her locker (she didn't lock it) found her shampoo bottle and shower gel/body wash, and he ejaculated into both of them, and came back to work. Other Myspace posters wrote under it saying how funny that was.

That was all in 2004, this is 2010 now.

My friends asked him about all this and he said, yes, it was all true.

Hmmm...it's been 6 years...I am SHOCKED reading this, that's all I can say.

Do you think he has changed by now? Should I quit dating him?

tina

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Hi Tina:

This question has nothing to do with BDSM, but will try to give you an answer.
If he has treated you nicely all the time and got no complains from him, consider it he has changed. What he did was very juvenile and immature, but he did not do something more criminal.
However if you consider that kind of behavior offensive and intolerable, then perhaps you should opt elsewhere albeit slowly and kindly. And watch your six.

OG

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From simple curiosity to elaborate scene set up and planning as well as technique, gear, link, advice, opinion, facts and reference among other colleagues. Social, spiritual, romantic and emotional issues related to BDSM Bondage being my focus and specialty, but love the sensual aspects of these arts.

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