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Dear
I'm submissive male and a foot & boot fetishist.Please help me explore myself for my kinky desires and how could I maintain balance with my self - esteem.I fantasize kink of being spitted on and being fed from feet and dirty shoe/boot soles.It feels good initially but after releasing I'm fill with disgust and guilt for these fantasies.why do I desire such kinda treatment? Please suggest me how could I cope with such desires?
Thanx and Regards
Ricky
Ricky,
I can not tell you why you enjoy the fetishes that you have. No one can ever explain them to us. But your not alone there are many men out there that are just like you I hear it a lot. Not just on line but from Submissive's at local gathers and all.
You might wish to look up some groups for such things and join them, where you can talk with others that are like minded. that may be the best way to understand the feelings you have and a way to not damage your self esteem as well.
I do not know of anything else that can help you other then maybe a kinky professional and they are hard to find. Yahoo, Google,MSN all have groups and you can search in them and find what your into and I would join more then one group, it may take a few for you to find the one that fits you the best.
Good luck and thanks so much for the question.
awhitecloud
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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.
Experience
I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.
Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot
Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com
Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.
Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.
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