Expert: awhitecloud - 7/30/2010

Question
Thank you for your time. I have been with my wife for four years now and married for just over one but recently she has decided that she wants to be a full time sub and she needs a 100% dom. She does realize that I am a natural aggressive but not a natural dom. She states that for me to choose to learn how to be a dom at this point would be for her and not for me therefore making me a submissive. I have tried to tell her that before I met her I was into the lifestyle but she does not believe me. Now she has started looking online for a dom to train her because she feels I can not fulfill her desires. I am quite confused on the issue and would appreciate an outside input. I understand her desires but her exclusion of me is mind boggling.

Answer
First each Dom trains for what they wish to have done with the sub, so a Dom training her is for her needs and his not what you want.  I hear a little Topping from the bottom. A sub is to be happy and want to please her Dom, not tell him what to do.  If she wants to learn more then maybe you need to have one evening a week to sit down and make a list of what she wants to learn.  Look things up together and well try some different things.  But in the end you most make the decision of what stays and what changes not her. She is a sub and if she would like 24/7 well give her some rules and make her happier in that manner.  Limit what she can and can not do.  The first assignment is to have her write an essay on topping from the bottom and why it is not a good thing.  Say like 5,000 words. :-) ~Evil smile~

Well I hope you can find what your looking for and a way to make it work.

Thanks for the question,

awhitecloud