Expert: Oscar G. - 7/14/2010

Question
Hello i am new to the M/p world ,right now it is done on a sight that i have been on for years ,i am Master's pet Moons ,i am having issues with feeling of being Joule Master has 2 mates i am not jealous of it is the other women who come around i don't know if it is normal or not Master says no jealousy at all or you go ,so i am not sure as how to let him know .this is a mew M/p relationship and we take it in to real as often as possible ,i have a young child so it is hard in real life for me ,but i love being Master's Pet i just don't like it when he has friends around that lay in my spot on his lap ...should i tell Master this ...i am scared he might get upset and tell me i am jealous i am but i am his not them other women ......plz help ty

Answer
Dear Tricia:

This is a sensitive aspect of the relationship that should have been talked about before you embarked on it more deeply. This seems to be a sticking point in the relationship, and you deserved to know if you could handle a polyamorous relationship. Not all BDSM relationships are poly, since many people are monogamous. But if you agreed to his rules and under his rule, then you should not complaint, since you agreed before hand. If did not know what you were getting into and you now realized what you got yourself into it is time for you to decide if you can handle the situation or not. And by the same token, you will find out if he appreciates you or not. But a poly guy will not given up being poly, if he has other 2 mates. Unless you are giving something else than the other 2 are not giving him.
But the main point is, can you handle being one of several pets? or if you want to be the only one you have to find the mater that seek ONLY ONE pet. If you knew this before hand, you agreed to it. If he did not tell you, but after the fact, then you should talk it and both make the necessary choices that would need to be made. You alone can figure out if you can live with those circumstances, otherwise make the changes you deem you need. You gut is usually not wrong.

I hope this helps you figure out your thoughts and make the necessary choices. Best wishes to you. Be well and be safe.

Oscar G.