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Expert: - 8/20/2010


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I am looking to collar my sub who currently lives on the other side of the US until she relocates back here. That being said I wanted to ask if you knew anywhere that sold everyday collars that she can wear in public that other lifestylers will recognize but people who do not know and or understand the lifestyle can not. My main concern is for her not to have any repercussions at work being a paralegal she has to maintain a professional appearance.

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Okay the best thing to do here is to go to a nice jewelery store and get a necklaces and matching bracelet.  This way she can wear them and no one will know.  Most of the time they are silver in color btu you want ti to be made well and of good quality so it does not turn her skin green and black.

Well I know this is what many couples do, and if you give it to her with the directions of what it means as well is then you both will know and that is all that matters in the end.

Thanks for the question I hope this helps you some.

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Life questions in the area of D/s and real life relationships. I have been active in the Lifestyle for over 18 years and live it real time. Active in local munches for the last 16 years. Have practical life experiences that have brought me to a greater understanding of my self and the lifestyle. There is some part or aspect of the lifestyle in each part of my day. I am constantly thinking about something in the lifestyle. There is no part of my day that is not centered around the D/s lifestyle.

Experience

I have been active in the community for over 19 years. I have been helping people for the last 14 years on a number of boards. And I write articles for different on line as well other D/s publications. Have a published book and am now working on the second one. Helping other as well promoting the lifestyle in a healthy, safe way is what I want to keep trying to do.

Organizations
Spokane Power Exchange. Salem OR area...Wet Spot

Publications
D/s World .... Fbot..."The Subbie Journal" www.Fetlife.com

Education/Credentials
I have finished my Master's degree and have spent a great deal of time in the fields of physiology. And I did a D/s study for my Master's thesis, and I was surprised with the out come. D/s views may not be defined but most all relationships have some aspect of them. Have a D/s book "The subbie Journal? in it's third printing.

Awards and Honors
I have several for best article of the month from D/s World.

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